tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post3580370883186210074..comments2024-03-18T10:55:52.127-07:00Comments on Wink <br>and the world surprises you: 10 ground rules for loveWinking Dollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14045187430930181570noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-71031381640218542352012-07-19T11:40:14.336-07:002012-07-19T11:40:14.336-07:00Hi Alan,
Btw, Mr SMS presented himself as divorce...Hi Alan,<br /><br />Btw, Mr SMS presented himself as divorced with joint custody of his son. He has a cordial/friendly relationship with his ex-wife and loved his son. His ex-wife even hosted us for dinner at her home (their former matrimony home). It partly helped to convince me to accept Mr SMS's pursuit because IMHO how a man treats his "enemy" (e.g. an ex-spouse) is a true measure of his real "gentlemanly" ways.<br /><br />Cheers, WD.Winking Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045187430930181570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-64245395461109358152012-07-18T23:14:43.141-07:002012-07-18T23:14:43.141-07:00Hi Alan,
Thanks for visiting and your comments/qu...Hi Alan,<br /><br />Thanks for visiting and your comments/questions.<br /><br />I classify "widower" and "divorcee" under the "single" category. As for children in-tow (grown-up or otherwise, and be it as a widower or a divorcee), my rule of "he must love children or nature" holds, except that in this case, I would expect him to love his children. If he loves his children, that would be an advantage -- but he must not spoil them, he should be able to be firm and apply reasonable age-appropriate discipline where necessary. If he does not even love his own children, then he will be dropped off my list (why have children if you do not love them?). I cannot promise that I will love his children as much as he does, but I will try to love them as my own -- because a family is what you make of it, not just blood/genetic relationships.<br /><br />Yes, I agree with you that many people (just like me previously) underestimate the challenge of separation.<br /><br />> Your pointers would be really beneficial for those inexperienced with long-term relationships beyond the family<br /><br />Haha, I hope so, and thanks for your compliment. I also salute you for your commitment to your family.<br /><br />Cheers, WD.Winking Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045187430930181570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-80270797955405672902012-07-18T22:25:17.068-07:002012-07-18T22:25:17.068-07:00Hi Winking Doll,
I just followed the link to this...Hi Winking Doll,<br /><br />I just followed the link to this post 2 years later.<br /><br />If I may ask/comment in response to your pointers:<br /><br />1) What about widowers, especially with children, grown-up or otherwise, in tow?<br /><br />…<br /><br />5) A partial repeat of 1), what if as a widower he already has children of his own, whom he loves and shows it?<br /><br />I'm assuming he goes on to genuinely show he loves the children you have just as much, if both of you decide to have them.<br /><br />…<br /><br />7) Long-term distance relationships do strain themselves, even after they're proven to withstand the separation<br /><br />Much as I'm confident of the strong bond I share with my wife and boys, I simply would not put separation stress (or drifting apart) to the test.<br /><br />But I guess that similar with you, I'm just being as cautious as possible. :-)<br /><br />—<br /><br />Your pointers would be really beneficial for those inexperienced with long-term relationships beyond the family, including and especially the younger ones.<br /><br />Belatedly but still, I salute you.Alan Heahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00915420875326951048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-68014584191672459922010-11-08T16:16:40.472-08:002010-11-08T16:16:40.472-08:00Thanks, Bone Collector!
I think migration serves ...Thanks, Bone Collector!<br /><br />I think migration serves as a good platform to move on in whatever aspects of life that one chooses. Of course, some wise-cracks will say, "You bring your problems with you, because it's all inside out." Ha ha!<br /><br />Nevermind, just live and let live, and go-with-the-flow for now.Winking Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045187430930181570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-9270839168519874182010-11-05T05:03:06.599-07:002010-11-05T05:03:06.599-07:00your post melted my heart winking doll...l am thin...your post melted my heart winking doll...l am thinking of you and hope and pray that things will go well for you!!<br /><br />your friend down underBone_collectorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01064402314217296122noreply@blogger.com