tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post977054059782434934..comments2024-03-18T10:55:52.127-07:00Comments on Wink <br>and the world surprises you: Ups and DownsWinking Dollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14045187430930181570noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-70822470114204924632013-01-13T09:02:04.011-08:002013-01-13T09:02:04.011-08:00Just to share, I just came across this website. It...Just to share, I just came across this website. It is a relief to read other people's stories, knowing that my situation isn't that rare. [E.g. Years ago, a friend personally shared with me about life with her borderline personality disorder mother.]<br /><br />http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Hate-My-Mother/2405<br /><br />> my mother's outbursts at me when I was a child. PY felt that having such nasty childhood experience could possibly "harm" me psychologically.<br /><br />That's just the tip of the iceberg. That's partly why I am glad that I am no longer residing in Singapore where my mother can continue to be emotionally abusive (and also other forms of abuse). <br /><br />That said, I count my blessing that for the first 7 years of my life, I grew up in an extended family where my (late) paternal grandparents loved and nurtured me, limiting the psychological damage from my mother. Plus, I knew quite young (before I even turned 4) that my dad adored me (I was and probably still am my dad's favourite), and that my mother had issues with my dad (and his family), so it could be why of all her children, I was the target of her "displacement" mechanism.<br /><br />I admit that prolonged issues in such a foundational family relationship have recurring effects in my life -- both positive and negative. I just try to keep coping and thriving.<br /><br />Cheers, WD.Winking Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045187430930181570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-54467269460651686022012-12-08T03:46:26.637-08:002012-12-08T03:46:26.637-08:00Hi Seraphim,
Thanks for visiting and leaving a co...Hi Seraphim,<br /><br />Thanks for visiting and leaving a comment. After reading your comment, I decided to edit my post to more accurately reflect my situation. Sorry if I had alarmed you unnecessarily. Now to answer your questions.<br /><br />> if you are diagnosed with 'mental illness', will it interfere with your chance of getting employed as a nurse in Canada?<br /><br />I asked X about this before since he is diagnosed with bipolar. X explained to me that in Canada, a person's health status is confidential information. Thus, medical professionals are not allowed to release any such information to the employers without the agreement of the client. According to X, having a "mental illness" is not an impediment to employment because it is one's ability to perform one's job that counts.<br /><br />The thing is I am pretty functional, so much so that "PY was still unconvinced of my self-diagnosis" at the end of our gossip session. IMHO, the only reason PY suggested visiting a GP for a referral to get into social support groups was because of what I shared about my mother's outbursts at me when I was a child. PY felt that having such nasty childhood experience could possibly "harm" me psychologically.<br /><br />> You can also keep yourself monitored by friends or family members when you decide to suddenly go on a 'shopping spree' when you are tight on cash. <br /><br />Thanks for your concern. Ahh, my bad, I probably wasn't clear about my financial situation in my earlier write-up. I have updated my blog entry to address this matter since. No, my intellect and financial discipline will not allow me to go on a 'shopping spree' if I do not have the cashflow. Before I head out on any shopping trip, I make a shopping list (which distinguishes between the must-buy from the nice-to-have) and check the limits of my "splurge allowance". It is just not me to be not financially prudent, I have cut my coat according to the cloth all my life.<br /><br />Thanks again for visiting and leaving a comment. <br /><br />Cheers, WD.Winking Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045187430930181570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5452590323401882895.post-20697244770764383302012-12-07T20:17:42.242-08:002012-12-07T20:17:42.242-08:00Hey WD
Just wondering, if you are diagnosed with ...Hey WD<br /><br />Just wondering, if you are diagnosed with 'mental illness', will it interfere with your chance of getting employed as a nurse in Canada?<br /><br />I agree with PY in consulting a GP for referral. From what I know, a GP is not suppose to diagnose mental illness and going to see a psychiatrist is the 'final judgement' for your mental status. <br /><br />By seeing the psychiatrist, it provides you with an understanding of how your mental health is and allow you to make better judgement on how to control your life. Just avoid getting yourself prescribed with regular medication, since it is not hampering your life and career too much. <br /><br />Also, from what I know, is that the psychiatric medications that were given for people with mental issues tend to be on a 'trial and error' basis with many undesirable side effects.<br /><br />You can also keep yourself monitored by friends or family members when you decide to suddenly go on a 'shopping spree' when you are tight on cash. <br /><br />Take care!Seraphimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313738311988021022noreply@blogger.com